He/She falls out of love, okay, then we accept it, we have
to accept. However, is there such thing? Love is based on emotion and it
varies. Love is also a choice. You choose to whom you want to give your love.
If you decide to end a relationship, it is also your choice to stop loving that
person (Well, at least not like as before, dumpers still have feelings but won’t
admit it and try to suppress themselves from letting it feel again). When one
stops loving someone, there is/are reason/s for it. One doesn’t just say “I’m
falling out love” (which means “I want to stop loving you”). If you have
arguments before the breakup, s/he might just want to be out of the
relationship and avoid it instead of resolving it with you.
Dumpers believe they don’t love you anymore, when in fact
they just don’t want to continue being in love with you because of the
difficult times. They just sometimes feel tired or bored with the relationship
and has mistaken these feeling as falling out of love with the dumpees. They tend
to forget all the happy memories you have, the good times, or the other bad
times you experienced that you were able to resolve together when they decided
to leave the relationship. They don’t want to entertain the fact that sometimes
relationship go through rough parts or bumps in the road, that every perfect
relationship also has flaws, that those in a relationship sometimes feel bored
or unhappy, and that sometimes relationship has to pause to be able to realize how
to keep the fire burning, but it doesn’t mean they don’t love their “loved ones”
anymore. Being in a relationship or being in love doesn’t mean being in love with
the person “all the time” you are with him/her. Why? Because of the difficult
times, you sometimes wonder if you love the person but in the end it’s your
choice if you would like to continue the love that you feel for her or not. So
again, you don’t “fall out” of love.
Did s/he find another love after s/he broke up with you? Yes?
Do you think they were already talking with each other before the breakup? It
is possible. If you were having arguments during your relationship and you were
able to resolve them, then all of the sudden (whether you were arguing the same
issues or not) s/he called the relationship off, then s/he might already find
someone to give his/her love and stop loving you like s/he used to love you.
This is actually the sad part or reason why a relationship has to end.
Okay, whether s/he said s/he falls out of love or not, a
long-term relationship that ends is really painful and will leave the dumpee
devastated. Although it is hard, you must accept it.
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It's not the end of everything. It's just experience earned. :)
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